Dating a guy with mental illness

Instead, just continue to remind your partner of his or her best qualities.This exercise will be refreshing not only for your partner, but also for you.Be willing to take or at least share the blame, be willing to take criticism from your partner (even though you are trying very hard because, yes, it is difficult to date someone with a mental illness) and be willing to change and to compromise.

As much as we try sometimes a relationship is just too much and time spent apart would do everyone some good.

Some mental illnesses and disorders are just too complex and debilitating for one person to handle alone.

You will see your partner at his or her highest highs and lowest lows, maybe irrational, lethargic, erratic, manic, aloof or incoherent.

These are only a handful of the mixture of emotions and dispositions that may be found in just one condition, not to speak of an array. I can guarantee to you that your partner wishes things were different, that you didn’t have to see him or her like this.

On the flip side, if you know someone who seems to be on a downhill spiral with their condition, don’t scare your partner by saying, “look, I just don’t want you to turn out like Tom, Dick and Harry.” Again, that puts a lot of pressure on your partner, and pressure is the last thing that’s going to make him or her feel comfortable in his or her own skin and capable of dealing with his or her condition. Your partner needs to feel like you trust him or her, just as you would want to feel trusted by your partner.

Don’t make your partner feel like they need to be on a leash or like you are his or her patient. You spend the earlier parts of your relationship trying to “read” the other person; trying to make sure you’re both on the same page.Then, once you’ve passed that phase, it’s on to really getting to know the other person.Of course, you will always be looking out for your partner, and it’s important that he or she knows that, but in order for your partner to be confident that he or she can live with the condition on his or her own, your partner needs to know that he or she doesn’t need to rely on you for every little thing.It’s easy for all the focus to turn to what is “wrong” or “lacking” in your partner, but always remember that the relationship is two ways, and if there’s trouble in paradise, it might be something you’re doing wrong and could have little to nothing to do with your partner’s condition.Knowing what works for your partner and not just what you think will work best for them will make the ride a little less bumpy.

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